“I love you more than my own skin and even though you don’t love me the same way, you love me anyways, don’t you? And if you don’t, I’ll always have the hope that you do, and I’m satisfied with that. Love me a little. I adore you.”—Frida Kahlo (via exoticwild)
“researchers have found that, more often than not, african americans and women tend to minimize experiences of discrimination, subconsciously denying or knowingly ignoring bias. when other people mistreat them because they are black or female, they often find it less painful to heap blame on themselves than to acknowledge the racist or sexist animus that led to the situation.
for example, in a series of laboratory experiments, karen ruggiero of harvard university and her colleagues asked volunteer subjects to take a test. the experimenter informed the black research subject that one member of a panel of white judges would evaluate his or her test. the experimenter also confided that either none, some, or all of the members of the panel discriminate against blacks. similarly, in the gender study, women research subjects were told that one member of a panel of male judges would evaluate their test, and that either none, some, or all of the members discriminate against women.
after the test had presumably been graded by one of the panelists, the test booklet was returned to the subject with the grade f. subjects were then asked to complete measures that assess how they make sense of the feedback and how they feel about themselves. ruggiero and her colleagues found that although blacks and women sometimes perceived discrimination, they were more likely to minimize discrimination and to blame themselves for their failures.
a similar study with white males as the subjects had rather different findings. white males were substantially less likely to blame themselves and more likely to see discrimination as the reason for their poor performance.”—